From Undervalued to Unshakable

I recently had a phone interview for a position I knew I’d excel in.

The first ten minutes felt smooth. The HR representative and I shared stories about our health journeys. Our conversation was more like catching up with an old friend than a formal interview. We discussed the responsibilities, exchanged laughs, and established a comfortable rhythm.

Then came the shift.

“What are your salary requirements?”

The tone changed instantly. The warmth faded. Suddenly, I wasn’t a peer; I was a negotiation. The HR rep transitioned from friendly to forceful, like a used car salesman moving into hard close mode.

“Well, we just don’t start people out that high.”

“I think you’d be a great addition to the team… you just need to accept what we have to offer.”

Their offer was nearly 50% less than my baseline—and significantly lower than what competitors pay for the same role.

And here’s the part I’m not proud of:

For a moment… I actually considered it.

Recognizing Your Value

I thought maybe they had my best interests in mind. Perhaps I was asking for too much or needed to accept “how things are” in today’s chaotic economy.

However, something inside me snapped back.

I’ve spent years building my skillset. I’ve faced adversity, burnout, and reinvention. I deserve to know my worth—even if someone else fails to see it. So I said no.

The Importance of Self-Advocacy

I conveyed, respectfully and clearly, that with my experience, the work I’ve accomplished, and the passion I possess, I’m seeking a company that truly values my contributions. This isn’t arrogance; it’s about alignment.

Here’s what has guided me to this understanding:

• My time in the Army taught me how to advocate for myself.

• Strongman training revealed that with persistence, even the most immovable objects can break.

• Therapy enlightened me on boundaries. I learned they aren’t barriers; they’re frameworks for respect.

  
  

Navigating the Job Market

In the competitive job market, it’s vital to know your worth.

Employers often try to undervalue you until you stop undervaluing yourself. They will present offers based on what they think you’re worth—unless you challenge that perception.

Why Preparation Matters

Preparation is key to navigating these conversations. Before any interview, know what positions like yours typically pay. Research industry standards and understand your value.

With this knowledge, you can confidently approach salary discussions. Be ready to articulate why you deserve higher compensation. When you stand your ground, you demonstrate confidence and self-worth.

Overcoming the Fear of Rejection

Many fear losing an opportunity if they push back. However, consider this: if you settle for less than you deserve, you might end up in a position that doesn’t fulfill you.

When you know your worth, you won’t settle. You won’t shrink. You’ll stand—unshakable.

From Undervalued to Unshakable

They will try to undervalue you until you stop undervaluing yourself.

Once you stand tall, they’ll either step up—or step aside.

When you understand your worth, you won’t compromise.

In conclusion, recognizing your value is essential during job negotiations. Do not let yourself be swayed by the pressures of the job market.

Consider this: when employers offer you their salary bracket, they probably don’t reflect your potential or skills completely. The phrase "one time in the article" can serve as a reminder of your worth. By articulating your experience, skills, and achievements, you advocate for yourself effectively. Stand firm, be confident, and know that you are worth every penny you ask for.